Using sex toys help with pelvic pain and pelvic issues 

Sex toys aid you with your pelvic pain or pelvic issues. Using sex toys can help you with recovering from pelvic pain and pelvic issues. Sex toys can be more than just a pleasuring tool when you have pelvic pain or issues. Sex toys help strengthening your pelvic floor. If you take the time training your pelvic floor and if your pelvic floor muscles have fully recovered, it will be a huge benefit when it comes to pleasure.  Sexual pleasure has to do with the shape your pelvic floor muscles are in. These muscles have been through the ringer throughout these years. Think of a pregnancy, but you could have also developed vaginismus on a young age or you could have experienced a prolapse during your older years. There are enough reasons to keep your pelvic floor healthy and strong. 

 

If you’re looking for pelvic floor exercises or go to the exercises page. If you’re looking for products for your pelvis and go to the Pelvic Store. 

 

 

If you still want some more tips, advices and in-depth information after this article, then have a look around on the website. I still have enough! It’s filled with in-depth information about your pelvis, tips for your pelvis and pelvic exercises for your pelvic issues or pain in and around the pelvic girdle. You can also directly go to the right page when you click the blue words; pelvic floor, urinal incontinence or working out during pregnancy. There’s a lot of information around so read to your heart’s content! 

 

This is the pelvic floor 

The pelvic floor gets a lot to endure throughout a woman’s life. Not just monthly. Think of vaginismus, pelvic pain, childbirth, multiple pregnancies, pelvic instability, organic prolapses and an eventual prolapse or overloading of the pelvic floor muscles. However, there are a lot of available pelvic floor exercises. I’ve got some suitable and scientifically supported pelvic floor exercises at the ready for you. You can still do a bit more and keep it fun for yourself, like using sex toys. Sex toys can teach your pelvic floor how to relax or how to strengthen. It’s also important that the pelvic floor stays healthy, especially when you know that the pelvic floor can use every bit of strength when it comes to preventing specific pelvic issues. Think of an upcoming childbirth or a surgery. Enter those events while being in a good shape and come out of them even stronger. Let’s go through the benefits of having a strong pelvic floor and a few pelvic issues. 

 

Benefits of having a strong pelvic floor during pregnancy 

There are a few benefits when you use cones, vaginal balls or other sex toys/tools to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles during pregnancy: 

1. The risks of developing urinal incontinence during and after pregnancy will decrease. 
2. Decreased risks of having a prolapsed pelvic floor during and after pregnancy. 
3. Better and more controlled toilet habits. 
4. Decreased risks of having organic prolapses (e.g. uterus or intestines). 
5. Pushing and giving birth will be more controlled and easier for you. 
6. The recovery of your pelvis, pelvic floor and the surrounding areas will be faster. 
7. Sex is a party! Even when you’re pregnant! 

3 causes of an overactive and tense pelvic floor 

Cause number one: an overactiveand tense pelvic floor through overload 
It can be overload because of workouts. A so-called bodybuilder pelvic floor. Your pelvic floor muscles are overactive and way too tense. You can’t relax properly or at all and you have lost the full control over your vagina. The pelvic floor muscles tense up when you’re lifting weights or when you have a tough workout. This prevents urine or feces from leaking during high pressure. But if you excessively work out, your pelvic floor muscles are excessively tense or active as well. Overload could be a cause for your vaginismus development. 

 

Cause number two: an overactive and tense pelvic floor because of a chronic cough 
Your pelvic floor can become overactive when you have a chronic cough. The pelvic floor tenses up with every cough. A muscle and in turn the pelvic floor can become overactive and overloaded when it’s excessively being tensed up. You can develop vaginism by coughing. 

 

Cause number three: an overactive and tense pelvic floor because of stress 
Trauma or other mental stressors could be a cause for vaginismus too. If you pressure yourself too much or you can’t relax during sexual moments because of a bad experience, then it could be the case that your pelvic floor muscles become overloaded. Vaginismus often isn’t preventable anymore. For you it’s important that you try to learn how to relax and how to take back control over your pelvic floor muscles. It’s common that young women are anxious or experience a huge pressure when it comes to sex. Think of a variety of scenarios where the honeymoon and the follow up are met with an enormous amount of pressure, in the Arabian or Islamic cultures, for example. Young women with vaginismus are a common thing there because of the pressure around the honeymoon and bearing children when the couple has married. Sex typically isn’t being experienced as an enjoyable thing and relaxing is hard. 

 

Using sex toys help with pelvic pain and pelvic issues

 

The solution for your overactive or tense pelvic floor 

Getting back control and learning how to relax your pelvic floor is the solution in each and every case. I have collected a lot of pelvic floor exercises that could help you. However, using these pelvic floor exercises in combination with sex toys is ideal. To know how to relax, you firstly should know what sex toys you can use. It’s already a difficult thing to insert something when you are dealing with vaginism. It’s a matter of building up slowly and trying it out. Some good advice is investing in a dildo set, this one from Segretoys, for example. It’s a 5-piece set. You can start with a very tiny dildo and expand it at your own pace. 

 

Vaginal dildos, cones and balls as a solution for vaginismus 

Next to applying the standard pelvic floor exercises, it’s good to slowly start using some toys. It’s best to start with a finger or smaller finger dildos or cones. A dildo set is ideal in this situation. You can often buy those in sets with different sizes and like that you can adjust the size and the usage of the dildos and cones. Take a look at this 6-piece dildo set. You can do this together during foreplay but you can also train alone. Use some lubrication on the smallest cone or dildo for starters and try to insert them after already having practiced the pelvic floor exercises. You’ll notice that it will go a bit stiffly at first. Relax and keep breathing through the belly. You can start to try to relax after you’ve inserted the cone or dildo. Let the toy be for the time being. Take in the relaxation and notice how your grip loosens on the inserted toy. You’re barely able to wiggle it around at first, but you will notice that this will go easier the more you relax. Keep it to a small dildo or cone during the first few weeks. You will notice improvement. Keep combining this with the pelvic floor relaxation exercises. Go to the Pelvic Store to find the suitable dildo or cone for you. 

 

You can expand after a week or two. Try out a bigger size, and maybe together with your partner. Relax, massage each other, use calming music and lay comfortably in a warm room. Use this moment to grow closer to each other too. Use another size dildo or cone for every successful week. Think of using a vaginal ball when the cones and dildos go okay. These balls create short moments of tension and relaxation during inserting and taking it out. Those balls are also called the Ben Wa vaginal balls of the Pleasure balls. Are you relaxing properly? Good. Then you can build up to a small vibrator or a bigger cone. Being able to make use of the penis isn’t far out of reach anymore. 

 

Make sure you have enough knowledge on relaxation, the right tools and the right mood. Never let yourself get worked up and communicate about your issues with your partner. I’m sure that this will bring you closer. 

 

Using sex toys to help with pelvic pain and pelvic issues after childbirth 

It’s smart and recommendable to go into childbirth with a healthy and strong pelvic floor. This decreases the duration of your recovery period. It’s also recommendable to pick up training your pelvic floor muscles after the childbirth. However, my advise is to not use any sex toys, Ben Wa balls, vaginal balls or cones until 45-50 days after childbirth. Read more about exercises after childbirth here. 

 

Your recovery time after childbirth and the risks for prolapses or urine incontinence will drastically decrease in the future when you practice with the pelvic floor exercises. The risks of developing incontinence on a later age will decrease when you let your pelvic floor recover from childbirth and by strengthening it by doing different strengthening pelvic floor exercises. Of course, I’ve prepared them for you. Using sex toys can help you strengthening your pelvic floor in a fun way. 

 

Vaginal cones or balls help strengthening your pelvic floor 

A vaginal cone set or ball set can help you to the right direction, next to doing the right pelvic floor exercises. It’s important to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles when the pelvic floor is prolapsed or untrained. You do this by using the vaginal balls or a dildo set with a ring attached to the end. You can insert those while you can still easily keep a grip on them. The size of the balls depends on the weakness of your pelvic floor. It’s recommended to start with a bigger ball if you barely feel a thing during sex or if you struggle with holding your urine in. You can often buy those balls in a set with different sizes. You can insert this chain of balls and you can pull them out one by one after you’ve inserted them. However, try to prevent pulling them out by tensing up your vaginal pelvic floor muscles. Keep holding on to them. You don’t have to put in a lot of effort to push them out in the beginning. That’s why you shouldn’t pull too hard. Let your pelvic floor muscles do the work and give resistance. Practice this on the daily for about 15 minutes. You will notice that it’ll immediately pay off. You can make it harder for yourself by using smaller balls.  

 

Practicing with vaginal cones or balls can be done everywhere 

The fun thing about the vaginal cones and balls is that you can use them anywhere, at any time during the day. If you’ve already advanced with strengthening the pelvic floor muscles, keep the balls or the cone in during the daily activities. Like cooking, walking the stairs, folding the laundry, walking the dog, ironing or cleaning the windows. It may feel weird, but this is an amazing exercise. Your pelvic floor needs to be able to tense up properly, especially when your attention is set on something else. You can also perfectly make use of the cones, balls or other sex toys/tools during sporting or other activities. 

 

Try it out when you’re walking Vicky or when you’re talking to the neighbor. Pretty exciting, right? 

 

Sex toys as a solution for urinal incontinence 

These vaginal balls and cones are great for helping you learn how to relax when you have vaginismus, but they can also be used to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles if they have been weakened or prolapsed. Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles is extremely necessary if you have pelvic issues you want to get rid of, like a prolapse, urinal incontinence or sex that feels numb to you. I do recommend getting into contact with a professional if you have a prolapse. Think of the doctor or a gynecologist. Long story short, vaginal balls or cones can help with urinal incontinence. 

 

Start off easy when you have urinal incontinence. Your pelvic floor muscles have been weakened and you can damage them if you start off too heavy. Always start with light, thin vaginal balls or cones. You can always adjust the weight or the size. The vaginal toys/tools are often available in sets. Like that you’ll always have the right size and the right weight at home. 

 

Pelvic floor exercises with sex toys like the Ben Wa balls, dildo sets, Pleasure balls and the vaginal cone 

So what we know by now is that doing the right pelvic floor exercises and using vaginal balls, dildo sets and cones are a perfect match. But then what do you actually do with those sex toys? You can do very specific pelvic floor exercises with these toys/tools. Let’s specifically discuss some strengthening pelvic floor exercises. You can repeat those exercises 3-4 times a week and if you notice that you’re doing these exercises with ease, you can increase the amount of repeats. Tensing up 5 times becomes tensing up 10 times, tensing up 10 times can be expanded to tensing up 15 times. You get the idea. 

 

6 pelvic floor exercises with the vaginal cone or balls 

1. 1. Up and down – seated. 
      You take a seat on a chair once you’ve inserted the cone or balls. Sit with your legs closed – your legs straight up with both feed placed firmly on the floor. Try to move the cone or balls up and down by tensing up and relaxing your vagina. Do this 3 x 5 times. Tense up, hold for 3 seconds, and let go. Take a break after every 5. The break moments have to take as long or a bit longer than the moment of tension. 3 x 5, so a minimal break moment of 15 seconds altogether. 

2. 2. Gripping – seated. 
      Keep sitting in the same position. Now we are going to try to squeeze the balls or the cones really together. Tense up as hard as you can. They need to break! – no, that’s a joke, don’t worry. But do tense up as tightly as you can. Try to not change positions. Do this 2 x 5, with every moment of tension being 4 seconds. Take a break after every 5. The break moments have to take as long or a bit longer than the moment of tension. 5 x 4, so a minimal break moment of 20 seconds altogether. 

3. 3. Up and down – standing. 
      Stand up while the vaginal balls or cone have been inserted. Stand up straight, feet on hip width. Don’t lock the knees but lightly bend them. Keep a straight back and face straightforward. Try to move the cone or balls around by tensing up and relaxing your vagina. Do this 3 x 5 times. Tense up, hold for 3 seconds, and let go. Take a break after every 5. The break moments have to take as long or a bit longer than the moment of tension. 3 x 5, so a minimal break moment of 15 seconds altogether. 

4. 4. Gripping – standing. 
      You keep standing in the position as mentioned above. The tensing up tightly can begin again. Try to not change positions. Do this 2 x 5, with every moment of tension being 4 seconds. Take a break after every 5. The break moments have to take as long or a bit longer than the moment of tension. 5 x 4, so a minimal break moment of 20 seconds altogether. 

5. 5. Tug of War – seated. 
      We go back to taking a seat, but now on the edge of a chair or your bed. Sit with the legs lightly spread. Sit up straight against the back support (optional) with your feet placed firmly on the floor. Insert the vaginal balls or cone. Tense up the pelvic floor muscles like with the gripping exercise. The only difference is that we are making it a bit more difficult now. You will slowly and carefully put more force into pulling out the balls or the cone. Not too hard, but just enough to be able to maximally tense up the pelvic floor to keep the balls/cone in. Keep this up for 5-10 seconds and do this 3 times. Take a break in between for about 20-30 seconds. You can easily increase the difficulty by upping the seconds or repeats. Think of keeping it up for 10-15 seconds and doing it 5 times. Do adjust your break to this. 

6. 6. Tug of War – standing. 
      Now you stand up again while you’ve got the balls or cone inserted. Stand up straight, feet slightly wider than hip width. Don’t lock your knees, but lightly bend them. Keep your back straight and face straightforward. Tense up the pelvic floor muscles like with the gripping exercise, the seated version. You will, once again, slowly and carefully put more force into pulling out the balls or the cone. Not too hard, but just enough to be able to maximally tense up the pelvic floor to keep the balls/cone in. Keep this up for 5-10 seconds and do this 3 times. Take a break in between for about 20-30 seconds. You can easily increase the difficulty by upping the seconds or repeats. Think of keeping it up for 10-15 seconds and doing it 5 times. Do adjust your break to this. 

When you’ve mastered doing those exercises, you can keep the vaginal balls or cone in during daily activities, like cycling, walking the stairs, walking the dog, etc. 

 

Conclusion 

You will give another dimension to strengthening or leaning to relax your pelvic floor muscles by using Ben Wa balls, dildo sets, Pleasure balls, vaginal balls or the cones. Exercises will help you a lot already, but the sex toys can make you physically more aware in a more enjoyable manner. It’s also a fresh breath of air to physically have something apart from reading a lot of information. Do you want to get rid of urinal incontinence, vaginismus, sex that feels numb to you, pain during sex, a prolapse, or do you simply want to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles? Then using a combination of the exercises and using the Pleasure balls or vaginal cones is ideal for you. Get to work and fight for your recovery. Because you can get rid of your issues too. 

 

More handy tips about the vaginal balls and cones 

Keep the sex toys and tools properly clean. This sounds logical, but it’s really essential. You can buy a special toy cleanser, but using a gentle/mild soap is perfectly fine too. The toys can receive a firm and thorough cleaning because they’re often made out of a durable material. Clean the vaginal balls and cones after every use, otherwise you could get the risk of developing a bacterial infection or a fungal infection. So scrub to have no fuss for the puss!