Having sex when you have pelvic pain or pelvic instability can be incredibly painful. During these moments, using the right sex positions are very crucial. There are 9 sex positions that have the lowest chance of experiencing pelvic pain. Being relaxed and finding a comfortable position while you’re having painful sex is very difficult. I will give you a few tips if you still really want to have sex despite the chance of getting pelvic pain. Next to finding the right positions, support is very important too. Having support from your partner but also having support during sex. Make sure you have a solid base. Find support with your feet or knees on the floor. That way you have some steadiness. Make sure that you keep control when penetration takes place. You can determine the depth and the rhythm yourself. Lets talk about the 9 sex positions when you experience pelvic pain or pelvic instability.
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The pelvis receives a good blood flow when one becomes turned on. This is of course a good thing but it also can become a risk. Stagnation can appear when you enter a state of rest after having sex. This causes you to have more pelvic pain. The better the blood flow in your pelvic floor muscles and organs, the higher the risk of stagnation. Stagnation is when your blood doesn’t get discharged properly through your vessels. You can experience having swollen labia, varicose veins in your pelvic area, varicose veins around your vagina, varicose veins on the inside of your upper legs or pain in the lower abdomen when you sneeze, cough, or make any other movements that increases the abdominal pressure. That’s why you shouldn’t immediately rest after having sex. Keep moving for a moment or do something else, otherwise you will be seated on the couch with swollen labia. Don’t participate in ‘sporting in bed’ right before you sleep but do this a few hours before you take your nightly rest. You can still have a small stroll through the house and be active for a little bit so that your blood can flow away properly.
Which sex positions are possible when you experience issues with your pelvis?
You can find the answer and the solution to your question in the tips/positions below. I figured it’d be nice to try them out!
9 sex positions that will help you enjoy sex despite the pelvic pain or pelvic instability.
If you so happen to experience pelvic issues, pelvic pain or pelvic instability, don’t immediately become discouraged. You can still find some enjoyment with a few conscious movements. Of course it’s difficult and you might get tired quick when you’re experiencing pelvic instability for example. However, there are enough tips and advices that can help you be on your way. Feel free to look around on the website if you want to read more tips. Your pleasure and joy don’t have to stop here! Let’s take a look together at what positions will be the best for your situation if you still want to be intimate with your partner while you are experiencing pelvic instability.
9 sex positions for pelvic pain or pelvic instability:
Sex position 1; Doggy-style.
This is probably a very popular position since it’s in the top 3 of the most favorite sex positions. Get on your hands and knees, preferably on the bed. Let the man be seated on his knees behind you. It’s often more enjoyable if his legs are between yours instead of the other way around. Let him keep his torso straight up so there won’t be too much weight on you. This way you can also control the speed, even through it’s a bit harder for him to move along with you, which would be a hard thing because most men love this position. You can easily reach the clitoris yourself or use a vibrator. Enjoy, and slap that ass!
Sex position 2; From behind. The standing Doggy.
Get off the bed and go to an exciting spot inside the house. Place your hands against a firm surface and move your bum a bit back. Hollow your back a little. This way your partner can properly reach the vagina. Control the speed and the depth of the penetration yourself. You’re in control and you can determine what feels right. Communicate properly with your partner and be naughty throughout the entire house. The standing doggy is ideal. You can also lay with your stomach on a table for example, or lay with your chest on the bed with your feet placed on the ground. However, the further you are in the pregnancy, the less enjoyable this position will be.
Sex position 3; The Frog Princess.
This one is incredible as well. The starter position is the doggy, but your partner will now be seated on his lower legs and your back will be lifted up. Find support with your back against his chest. Take back the control in your hands and drive him crazy! Your partner can also easily reach your clitoris to give you some extra pleasure, or you can even use a fun vibrator. Go for it and listen to your body. If it doesn’t feel right anymore, immediately stop. Determine the speed yourself.
Sex position 4; The Best Friend.
Your partner is seated on the edge of the bed. You can get on top of your partner while you’re facing each other. Very fun, intimate, and enjoyable. It is a bit tricky to move properly. Try to wiggle your pelvis from side to side. You can also tense up your pelvic floor muscles to experience some more pleasure. You can also do this position while you’re both fully seated on the bed. Your partner needs to sit with his legs straight, or cross-legged.
Sex position 5; The Lap Dance.
This one is about the same as the Best Friend, but it’s turned around. I’m sure you’ve seen a lap dance, once. So let your partner be seated on the edge of the bed and sit on his lap. There will be a lot of physical contact so let the fun begin! You can keep your feet properly placed on the floor. You aren’t bound to the bed. You can also decide to be adventurous and have fun on the couch or chair downstairs. You also have the control in this position. Make turning movements if going up and down isn’t comfortable. It will be a fantastic party with this position as well; your clitoris can be properly stimulated with your or your partner’s hand or with a vibrator!
Sex position 6; Big Spoon, Little Spoon.
You’re lying comfortably on your side while your partner lies down behind you. Press your bum a bit back. Take the initiative here as well. Control the rhythm and the depth of the penetration. It could be painful if the penis slips out of the vagina. That’s why you should try to keep your bum pressed against your partner. This is the ideal position for when you’re pregnant, have pelvic pain, or when you’re dealing with other health conditions. Tip: You are able to stimulate the clit in this position, so get out the vibrator! Or with the hand, of course. Sex position 7; Cowgirl. Yeehaw!
Take the reins in your hands! You are on top of your partner while he is on his back. You can decide everything in this position. The speed, depth, and the thrusts. You can also make turning movements with your hips without the thrusts. This is an enjoyable position for women. For men this is a nice position for the view, but a bit less if he wants to orgasm. You can also lean a bit forward and lean on your lower arms. This way the man is able to pull up his knees so you can find more support on you partner’s upper legs. It’s an ideal position for stimulating your clitoris with your partner’s hand, yourself, or with a vibrator.
Sex position 8; Reverse Cowgirl. Giddy up!
The reverse cowgirl is just as ideal as the normal cowgirl. You’re also on top on this position while your partner is lying on his back. Only this time, your back is turned to your partner. You can also lean backwards to support yourself on the bed with your arms. This is also a nice position to stimulate your clit with your hand or vibrator.
Sex position 9; Missionary.
The old, trusted missionary can make do as well. But be aware; your partner is in control here, so communicate properly. The nice thing about this position is that you have a lot of various possibilities. Try it out while you’re lying with your bum on the edge of the bed. Pull your legs towards yourself and have your partner stand next to the bed. Tell him how deep he can go. If necessary, you can also grab a hold of his ass to determine the speed.
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Hopefully this information was useful to you! If you’re still looking for some more information, feel free to take another look around on the website. It’s filled with in-depth information, tips a webshop and also exercises. I still have a lot of articles with lots of information about other symptoms and issues. Feel free to click on the blue words to take you straight to the right page.
My personal recommendations
You can find my personal recommendations for a weakened pelvic floor here
I hope you’ll be able to immediately do something with the information you’ve found. If you’re still looking for some more help, then keep on reading. Below I will sum up some products that are suitable to help you strengthen your pelvic floor:
- Strength building pelvic floor exercises: These strength building exercises are specially put together for you so you can train and strengthen your pelvic floor. This is a training module with a lot of different pelvic floor exercises that become more challenging as the periods pass by. Like this you will make sure that you will have a very strong pelvic floor and you solve/prevent your pelvic issues, pelvic pain and other pelvic problems. Click here to directly go to the pelvic floor exercises.
- Vaginal/anal exercising cones: The vaginal or anal exercising cones (also called vaginal balls or Ben Wa balls) are suitable to combine with the strength building pelvic floor exercises from recommendation 1. The vaginal cones differ in weight. Depending on your recovery rate and progress, you can change up the weights. The pelvic floor exercises remain challenging that way so you can keep on working on having a strong pelvic floor. Click here for the overview of vaginal and anal exercising cones that I can recommend to you.
You can find my personal recommendations for an overactive and tense pelvic floor here
I hope that you’ve found useful information. If you are still looking for some more help, then keep reading! I will sum up some products that are suitable to help you relax your pelvic floor:
- Relaxing pelvic floor exercises: These relaxing pelvic floor exercises have been composed specially for you so you can learn how to relax and control your pelvic floor. This is an exercising module with a lot of different pelvic floor exercises that will become harder with every phase. This way you make sure that you can get your pelvic floor under control so you can end up relaxing it. Practice relaxing your pelvic floor when you’re experiencing issues with vaginismus, vulvitis, obstipation, difficulty urinating or with different types of overflow incontinence. Click here to go directly to the pelvic floor exercises.
- Dildo set with different sizes of dildos: Your vagina can be too tight when you experience having an overactive and tense pelvic floor. This causes sex to be painful, even inserting a finger or tampon can already bring pain. Learn how to relax the pelvic floor with the relaxing pelvic floor exercises, section 1. Use a dildo set where you can adjust the width and length yourself. Start with the smallest and use bigger ones overtime when you’re ready. Click here to directly go to the 6-piece kegel set. You can also click here for a 4-piece dildo set. It’s smart to start with the smallest dildo. Slowly build up to what you can handle.
- Orthopedic cushions: Do you have pain when you’re sitting because of an overactive pelvic floor, pelvic instability, lower back pain or pelvic pain? Then a orthopedic cushion can give you some extra seat comfort. You can also perform the relaxing pelvic floor exercises on this cushion. Click here to directly go to the different orthopedic cushions which I’ve tested out for you.
